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Guest Post: The price of beauty

April 9th, 2010 · 10 Comments · guest posts

Hi all. As you know I am currently in Aruba, hopefully at this exact moment I am somewhere on the beach with a drink in one hand and a book in the other. There is really no room for a laptop, so here today I’d like to leave you with a guest post from Cristina. Here goes…

Recently (while eating lunch and flipping through the TV channels) I came across this reality TV program on VH1. Believe me when I say this, but I’m not one of those girls who loves to watch reality tv (OK, I lied… I do like some of them, but not all) – however, I came across Jessica Simpson’s “The Price of Beauty”.  As soon as I turned it on, and started watching the first couple of minutes, I knew this exact episode would strike an emotional internal cord with me.

I’m in recovery from Anorexia.  Sure, it’s been a journey.. one hell of a journey.  However, this episode that I somehow got sucked into (and I hate it when that happens) was discussing what Paris, France considers beautiful.  Of course, there are so many models, a lot of them who are too skinny, parading the fashion shows and and selling the “look” of the designer.  One of the models that Jessica, her celebrity hairstylist and best friend were talking with, confessed that if you’re over 115lb as a model you’re considered fat and may loose your job as a model.

I mean, really?!  It just really makes you think of what being beautiful is considered in a country other than our own as the United States.  It makes me think that something so superficial (and no offense to models) is being predetermined by someone else’s standards.  Also featured in the program there was this too familiar face of Anorexia, some.. Italian model? who I’m telling you, is just difficult to look at.  Because she knew she wanted to model as a young girl, all these designers were telling her (when she’s REALLY thin to begin with) that she needed to loose weight.  Of course she did to keep her modeling job, but what really erupted within was a nasty Eating Disorder, that I can definitely relate to.  However, I’m glad this young woman saw the light at the end of the tunnel and told the designers that she wasn’t going to loose anymore weight.

I feel so strongly about just writing this entry.  Because I, for so long, let others determine what is considered beautiful for myself.  I felt a lot of pressure to fit into their ideals, but I never felt pretty myself. I wasn’t able to positively believe “I am beautiful” because there was always something telling me that I needed to loose more weight, and the list goes on and on.  There is so much pressure for women to change their image/bodies just to fit into what others consider beautiful.  It’s quite sad.  Recently I decided that I was not going to let someone else, such as the common magazines I read (“Glamour” especially) try and tell me what is beautiful.  Maybe the “trend” of the moment is some diet and how that diet will make me feel so beautiful and happy, but really… I know that the only key to pure happiness is in YOUR control not someone else’s, and shouldn’t be determined by someone else’s opinion.

Instead of trying to cover up our imperfections and flaws, why not let your inner sexy shine?  Everyone has their imperfections.  It’s about time we celebrate our own differences instead of trying to copycat ourselves to what is considered beautiful and trendy by someone else’s’ standards.  What makes you unique is yourself, and don’t ever let someone else’s standards determine your own inner happiness.

Thank you, Cristina, for this inspiring message. I’ll see you all soon! 😀

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10 Comments so far ↓

  • #1 - shanna

    i saw jessica when she was on oprah a week or two ago and i’m pretty sure the clips they showed from the price of beauty was the same model you saw. it was so awful! that poor women was just withered to skin and bones. i’m glad she is doing something about her experience and using it to help others.

  • #2 - Cristina


    Thanks for commenting on my post! The model who I saw in this episode (the Paris, France one) was so scary skinny. She mentioned how she was skinny to begin with, and how the designer wanted her to loose more weight. It’s just sad at what point the models, or just women in general, will do to be considered for someone else’s standards.

    Recovery is about POWER. It’s about giving back. When I was in treatment, I tried to shed light as to what recovery is about it. It’s kind of like paying it forward. Everyone is different, no case is the same, but pure happiness comes from within.

  • #3 - caitlin

    beauty comes in many different shapes and sizes!

  • #4 - Cristina


    Yes it does. It’s not “one size fits all”. I hate that. It’s like how do you know that “one size fits all” t-shirt will fit me?! I don’t want to be defined by my size or shape.

  • #5 - One Healthy Apple

    Thank you for sharing this post. It’s amazing what we find beautiful in one culture is quite the opposite in another. This was a great piece and a great reminder that what makes even those models beautiful is their unique looks and we should find those unique things in ourselves too and rock them!

  • #6 - Cristina

    @One Healthy Apple,

    It’s important. I’m listening to this song called “Walk on Water” that was featured on “The Biggest Loser”, and it’s about feeling confident in who you are. It’s just what do you have to loose? Insecurities… just let them go!

    I might repost this to my own blog.

  • #7 - Katie @ Health for the Whole Self

    Thanks for this wonderful post! Very inspirational! :)

  • #8 - Cristina

    @ Katie at Health for the Whole Self,

    Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it.

  • #9 - Sara

    Thanks for this wonderful and brave post! It really hit home with me because I’ve had, and continue to have, issues with food and body image. In all honesty, I have an eating disorder as well, which is hard to say out loud or write. One thing that I continuously wonder is how I got to this point. I’m approaching 30 now, and while I was always a little overweight through high school and college, I didn’t have any body issues then. In graduate school, I lost about 40 pounds, rather quickly, from running and eating very little. I started to get a lot of compliments from everyone, from strangers, and a lot more positive attention, then I seemed to just feed off of this. I didn’t want the positive comments from everyone to end, so I kept going. And realizing that everyone saw me as beautiful when I was thin made me wonder what they had really thought of me while I was heavier, and I then started doing everything to avoid going back to that heavier weight. Over the past 8 years or so, I’ve yo-yo’ed back and forth, at some points being heavier and feeling better about myself, but then sliding back into the unhealthy weight loss periods, getting good feedback, and then becoming obsessed and entrenched in an unhealthy lifestyle again. I’m trying to take off a little weight the healthy way now, but it is so hard not to just restrict and get thin quickly, knowing that those positive comments and good feelings would come back again. It’s a struggle, and it’s nice to know I’m not the only one. Thanks again for the post!

  • #10 - Cristina


    My blog sort of evolved into a discovery of my new Self. A new Self that focuses on the positivity of life and new experiences throughout health and fitness.

    Recovery IS important, but I find that it turns away the average reader who I feel, should be reading my blog!

    You are very brave and I know.. you’lll see the end at the light of the tunnel and come out on the other side.